3 Elopement Mistakes to Avoid Before You Say I Do

“Should we elope?”

It’s a question many couples ask when they want something more intentional than a traditional wedding. Elopements have become a meaningful alternative for couples who value intimacy, experience, and flexibility.

Before you start planning, there are a few common mistakes worth avoiding. These missteps can create unnecessary stress or limit the experience if not addressed early.

Whatever your reason may be, eloping makes sense for many modern and fun-loving couples. 

Before you begin elopement planning, here are a few mistakes you should avoid.

I have prepared a list of essential “DON’Ts” and the mistakes you should avoid making in your wedding planning.

Go through them before getting ready to say I DO.

1. Don't forget about the Legalities

 As we all know elopement weddings have a stress-free feel to them.  But certain factors such as legalities should be dealt with promptly. 

• You should secure witnesses and a registered officiant for your big day as soon as possible.
• In addition to this, you should also consider obtaining your marriage license early as some of the states may have a waiting period. It’s important to carefully read through the regulations and to understand the nature of the paperwork and ID you require, as well as any other documentation needed.
• Another option is to have your legal ceremony back home and then renew your vows or have a symbolic ceremony at your destination.

2. Don’t Commit to Pre-Defined Planning Without Clarity

Some planners and venues offer pre-defined planning structures that bundle services together. While this can appear convenient, it’s important to understand exactly what is included and whether it aligns with your expectations.

Review every element carefully, especially vendor selection such as photography and styling. Make sure you understand who will be involved and how decisions are made.

If you can’t meet vendors in person ahead of time, schedule video calls to ensure alignment. For destination elopements, arriving at least a day early allows time to settle in and connect with the team supporting your day.

3. Define Your Budge

Even when costs appear streamlined, expenses can grow if details aren’t planned carefully. Sit down together early and outline priorities, expectations, and realistic budgets.

Clear financial conversations upfront help avoid stress later and allow you to focus on the experience rather than last-minute adjustments.

An elopement allows you to design a wedding that reflects who you are, without pressure or obligation. There is no right or wrong way to celebrate your commitment.

If you’re still unsure whether eloping is right for you, clarity comes from understanding your priorities, values, and vision for the day.